Saturday, 23 November 2013

Feeling Lost.

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With less than a year of University life left, and with time going by far too quickly for my liking its hardly surprising  that I had my first 'quarter-life crisis' which was having an inevitable breakdown worrying & trying to figure out what I want to do with my life when I leave University! 

As ready as I feel to be done with education & start a new chapter of my life I am absolutely terrified at the thought of being a 'grown up' I know by law I am an adult and have been for the last nearly three years but I've never really felt the meaning of that! Education has always been a safety net, University especially was the opportunity to taste freedom & independence but be safe in the knowledge that your still not completely on your own and responsible. For me leaving university will be saying goodbye to that childhood & cutting the last thread of youth and I really don't feel prepared for it! 

I feel like theres this overwhelming pressure for young people to know exactly what they want to do & what job they want to have for the rest of our lives. Forever is a really long time, how are we honestly supposed to know that at the age of 20 -- or whatever age you are! I really can't deal with the pressure & dread the question that comes every time I see family and friends: 'what you going to do when you finish university, not long left now you know'. I don't know is quite frankly not an option, the look of confusion those three words receive is quite frankly ridiculous & I can bet money on it that none of these people knew exactly what they wanted to do at our age! 

I don't have a clue what I want to do career wise I'll throw my hands up and admit that, I have no valuable skills that can be put too good use & I'm by no means the most academic, so there is no category I automatically fit in too, as is the case with many I imagine. So I've taken the decision to take a year out, I'm going to go back to my retail job & work my butt off for a good few months and then I'm off -- I want to go and see what the world has to offer while I don't have any commitments of my own and then hopefully figure the rest out as I go along.  I thought telling people this would be a good alternative to the awkward 'I don't know what I want to do' 'you better figure it out then' conversation but weirdly it was worse…do people not approve of gap years anymore?? The amount of disappointed faces I've received from telling people that was far more than I expected! 

I guess the moral of this little post rant is that you cannot please everyone, so don't even bother trying, if you are happy yourself than that is all that matters! And its okay if you don't have your whole life figured out, not many people actually do, a lot of us are still trying to figure it out as we go along & if it takes longer than you expected, thats fine!
Whats meant to be will be! 

So thats my rant for the day over! 
Do you ever worry about the future?
Have you had any form of 'life crisis'
Share yours below & we can all help each other out! 

Speak Soon
Charlotte xx

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  1. I know what you mean, I hate being asked what I want to be when I'm older and feeling like a disappointment when I say that I have no idea! I'm only 18 and I get it so I'd imagine it's even worse for you. I think a gap years a great idea though, when else are you going to do it!

  2. Do whatever makes you happy. You are talented, lovely and amazing - three rare qualities. You will be fine. You are doing amazingly at University. Follow your dreams. Failing that, muddle along until you find your way! That's what most people do - they just don't tell you the truth! xxx

  3. I'm feeling exactly the same and have done since this time last year! I graduated in July and am still working in my part time job trying to figure out what to do with life. My mind can't cope! xx

  4. You will find that your not alone with this feeling. Most people don't know what they want to do, some are lucky and have an idea. The best thing I can suggested (I graduated in 2009) is that you do as many internships and work experience in your free time. Make proper use of the free time you have whilst at uni and get involved with as much as you can. Not only will varied work experience be good on your CV but it will also help you get an idea of what you want to do or (even better) what you don't want to do!

    Just enjoy the rest of uni and don't worry about the growing up thing...I'm still not there yet!


  5. I can't believe its been nearly 2 years since I left uni and I still don't really know what I'm doing. Enjoy it while you can! xx

  6. Charlotte, I think you are definitely making the right choice regarding your year out. I am 28, I've worked for years, I'm in my 2nd year at uni and I have no idea what the future holds. Where I'm going to go, or what I'm going to do. But I guess that's the beauty of life - it can go wherever you please (budget withstanding!). I have been lucky enough to have travelled and, whenever anyone comes to with tales of woes about life, or worries about what to do, I tell them to work, save up and get out there and have a look around. If you can do it, why the hell not?! You are so young, you don't need to have your whole life planned. I do understand the 'looks' - I always get them. But, you know what? What I do with my life plays no part in their own, so people can have opinions, and look surprised but, hell, I can't make a decision just because they want me to! Life doesn't work like that and I'm pretty sure it never will!!



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